Saturday, January 23, 2016

Favors....DO WE HAVE TO!?!?!?!

I am forever being asked...."Do we HAVE to have favors at our wedding?"  My answer is simple, you don't HAVE to do anything you don't want to do on your wedding day!  
Favors are often a lovely addition as a "thank you" to your guests and a little something for your guests to take home to remember your special day.  They can also be used to supplement your decor at the wedding, and can unify the theme of your event.  However, favors can be expensive, and as we all know, weddings are expensive!  So if the budget is tight, you should not feel obligated to spend a ton of money on your wedding favors.  You can be creative, and do something guests will really enjoy and remember.   Make a homemade spice blend, or jam to send your guests home with.  Something edible is always a big hit! Keep in mind your favor does not have to be a physical item, but can also be an "experience".  Have a photo booth that prints out pictures for your guests to take home, host a bonfire or after party following the wedding for people to kick back and wind down the night. The one thing I discourage is investing a lot of money into something your guests will put on a shelf and forget about.  Giving a gift with your initials and/or wedding date engraved is something that most people will not appreciate, or use, and can be very costly.  
There are a variety of ways to give a favor. You can have a favor attached to your guests seating card (Ex. a small bottle of maple syrup with the escort card attached for a fall wedding).  You could also have the favors placed at the dinner tables, to accent the tablescape ( saplings for a winter themed wedding).  Another way to thank your guests is to set up a favor table near the exit door at the end of the night, so as guests depart, they pick up their favor before they walk out the door.  There are so many options, so think it through.
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Be creative, and thoughtful when choosing a favor.  It is such a sin to be cleaning up after a wedding and see favors left behind, so if you decide to give a favor, make sure it is something smart, clever and useful.  


Friday, May 1, 2015


It's such a great touch to welcome your guests upon arrival at a destination wedding weekend with a "Welcome Bag".  This is a great opportunity to introduce your guests to your wedding weekend "Theme"...and by all means....THEME IT OUT!!!!!  The ideas and items to use are limitless, although I'm sure your budget may not be!  

First confirm the number of bags you will need.  Are you doing 1 bag per guest, or 1 bag per room?  After you have figured how many bags you will need, set your budget.  This will let you know how much you can spend per bag.  

You can purchase "odds and ends" to add to the bag in bulk (Tylenol, Lip Balm, Gum, Snacks and Water), but you should add something personal to the bag to make it special and stand out from the rest!  Add something local from the town or area you are getting married in.  A special tea, an apple from the local orchard, local honey or maple syrup, or a special cookie baked at the local bakery.

Another great idea is to add something to remind the guests about something that is near and dear to you as a couple.  Perhaps a special candy that is your favorite.  If you love hiking, add a hiking water bottle.  Or something that represents where you met, or got engaged!  A beach towel, a wine bottle opener...the list goes on!

Use the time of year to play to your themed bag.  Is it Spring time?  Add some seedlings!  Is it summer time?  Add some flip flops!  Is it fall?  Add a cider donut!  Is it winter?  Add a candy cane heart.  Are you hosting a bonfire?  Add some bug spray and marshmallows!

And then the VESSEL!  You can use a standard small paper gift bag.  Or you can use a burlap bag, a cute lunch box, a large acrylic cup!  

Here are a few pictures of some items in last year's 4th of July Wedding!

Friday, April 24, 2015

The FINAL STEP...The Seating Arrangements!!!!!

You are in the home stretch of the wedding planning details, and the last big "project" is making your seating arrangements.  After having to "sit back" and watch many bridal couples struggle with this last detail, I have a few suggestions.  Unfortunately this is something that not many people can assist you with, so the best plan is to DIY!!!!! 

Assign Tables, Not Seats.  Don't spend all the effort giving people exact "positions" at a table, because people will move around to where they are comfortable at the table.  You want to make it as simple as possible for your guests as well.  Getting too many people's opinions and advice may be overwhelming.  Try to make the process as simple as possible.  

Don't Start Too Early.  You should not start this undertaking until all of your RSVPs have been received, because one or two changes (or even more!) can cause lots of unnecessary work.  There are many fancy softwares that can help with the process (I have heard that the has a great tool), but some good old fashioned post it notes do the job just fine as well!  Start with knowing how many people can be seated at each table (maximum never to be exceeded!).  Next write each guests name that is attending on a small post it note (even the little flags are great!).  Have one piece of paper labeled with the table name/number and start adding the post its to the table you want people to be grouped at.   

Make Your List...and Check It Twice!  Once you have all your guests accounted for and grouped into tables, check and DOUBLE check...and even TRIPLE CHECK the number of people at a table.  The last thing you want is for your guests to arrive at their table and not have a seat for them - so the banquet staff will be running around trying to add seats to a table while guests are standing and waiting.  Perhaps even having someone else checking your total counts at each table will be helpful to have a new set of eyes on your work.  Provide your "final" details (with guests names and table numbers) to your event coordinator or Maitre D'.  This is helpful if "Aunt Sue" approaches one of the staff members and says "I can't find my escort card, so what table am I at?" -- It's important that you don't have to worry about this detail as your reception starts, and your coordinator can swiftly pull out the seating list and answer any detailed questions from your guests.

Arranging Tables In The Space.  After all of your guests have been assigned to a table, make sure that the tables are arranged in the event space appropriately.   Immediately Family tables (Parents, Grandparents, Siblings) should be closest to the Bride and Groom.  Also, be mindful to keep the younger crowd grouped in the same area, and the older generations together.  Putting the tables of people who will most likely be up and dancing the majority of the night should be placed near the DJ/Band, this way the groups who will likely be seated and catching up with friends and family most of the night should be farther away from the music, so they can carry on a conversation.

Escort Cards....PRINT....and Let Go!  Once all of the tables have been set and assigned, send your final guest counts and names to your event planner.  Once you have printed the escort cards to correspond with your table assignments they should be arranged alphabetically by last name (to make it easiest for your guests to find their name).  Hand over the escort cards and your guest names/table assignments to your event planner, and have completed your FINAL DETAIL!  Congrats!

Friday, March 27, 2015


Although your wedding will be one the most "adult" things you will do in your life....why not enjoy the kid inside as well!  There are some super cool ideas to enjoy during your rehearsal dinner, cocktail hour, or throughout your wedding weekend.  These will keep things fun, light hearted, and keep people mingling and having a great time!

Some trending ideas are Croquet, Giant Jenga, Lawn Chess, Wedding Corn Hole, and so many more!

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Guest Libs

Everybody remembers doing "Mad Libs" as a giggly young kid.  Why not bring back that silly feeling and have "guest libs" for your guests to fill out!?  Leave them out at cocktail hour, or at guest tables, and have them complete some fun comical or nonsensical story about the wedding couple!  This is such a neat keepsake for the Bride and Groom as well!

Monday, December 15, 2014

Food Truck!?!? Heck yeah!!!!!!

Food trucks are a terrific way to add something fun, and different to your wedding weekend.  Hire a "junk food" truck as part of your rehearsal dinner or welcome bonfire event for some fun to kick off your wedding weekend.  Or, perhaps as an "after party" event to wrap up the night after the wedding reception is over.  Any time you have the chance to have your own food truck why wouldn't you!?!?  So many are Gourmet vendors and most are happy to cater your event.  Tacos, grilled cheese, pizza, cupcakes, frozen yogurt.... The list goes on!  Here are links to a few in our area!!

Friday, December 5, 2014


Invitation timing is crucial!  Here is a general guide, but be sure to check with your printing company to make sure they can meet your deadlines!

Save the Dates!  Order them and send them at least 9 months prior to your wedding.  Especially if you are having a destination wedding, you want to allow your guests ample time to make travel plans, arrangements for time off of work, and room reservations at the hotel that you have a block of rooms reserved at.  If you would like your guests to all stay at one place, or on the property where your wedding is taking place, the rooms will book up quickly so you want to encourage your guests in the "Save The Date" to make their reservations as soon as possible.

The Invitations.  You should send your invitations 8 - 10 weeks prior to the wedding.  Ask your printing company how far in advance they should be ordered so they can be stamped and in the mail 8-10 weeks before the wedding date.  If you are sending your invitation out around the holidays, you may want to send them with a little extra lead time so they don't get lost within a pile of "holiday cards"!

RSVP's!  Have your RSVP date 4 weeks prior to the date of your wedding.  Most venues require a guaranteed guest count by 2 weeks prior to the wedding, so this should give you a few weeks of "cushion" to follow up with any guests that don't RSVP on time.

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