Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Modern Wedding Etiquette Tips


The modern couple has a great challenge today in deciding what "etiquette" they should follow throughout their wedding, simply because times have certainly changed.  Here are a few things that apply to the current couples.

THE BIG NEWS!  The last thing you want is your second cousin twice removed to spill the beans to your own parents.  Before posting a picture of your beautiful new engagement ring on facebook, pick up the phone and give your immediate family a call first.  They should be the first ones to know, and once they do.......it's free game!

THE BILL!  If parents or family are willing to help with the cost of your big day you can graciously accept.  The rules of etiquette in regards to the bill are no longer so strict.  Some parents can't afford to pay for everything, so be sure you know who is able to contribute before coming up with your budget.

THE GUESTS!  At first the excitement may overwhelm you and you will find yourself talking about and inviting just about anyone in earshot to the wedding.  Be careful not to extend an invitation to anyone until you have put your guest list together, it's not easy to retract an invite!  Anyone invited to the bridal shower should be on your wedding guest list, so be sure not to "slim down" the wedding invitation list from your bridal shower list.

THE HOSTS!  Who hosts the bridal shower, the rehearsal dinner, the farewell breakfast?  The long and short of it is "anyone"!  There are no longer rules as to who is required to host and pay for what.  Anyone that wants to help should be allowed to offer their assistance in contributing to your wedding events.

THE THANK YOUS!  Thank you notes are an etiquette that should never be overlooked, under any circumstance.  When someone gives a gift of any kind, an acknowledgement of this gracious gesture should be acknowledged in a timely fashion.   

If you have any questions about etiquettes, open the line of communication with your wedding planner and professionals.  They are there to help and have seen it all!!

Friday, September 26, 2014

Timeline For Your Wedding


How important is keeping to a timeline for your wedding?  Some say "timing" is everything, I say "order" is everything!  When it comes to time on your wedding day, nothing will every go exactly as you plan it to.  When organizing a group of your loved ones (no matter how large or small), it is never an exact science.  If you plan for everything to happen at an exact time, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.  It is best to plan an "order of events" so your night goes in the way that you hoped, but you don't have to worry about the specific moments each event happens.  Certainly you should think about a general timeline and let your vendors know how you would like things to run.  Would you like to maximize dancing? Do you want to move slowly through your meal?  Do you want cake cutting immediately following dinner?  These are things to think about, but don't be disappointed if it takes a bit longer than you expected for your guests to eat their first course, or your family to give their speeches.  ENJOY YOUR DAY, and don't over think the little things!  I have yet to meet a bride that wears a watch to her wedding!

"Time has a wonderful way of showing us what really matters" 

Monday, August 18, 2014

Writing Your Own VOWS

Writing your own personalized wedding vows is no easy task.  But this is your chance to share with your friends and family just what you mean to each other, so GO FOR IT!  Follow a few steps and you are well on your way to having some tissue worthy vows!

GET TOGETHER - Sit down with your future spouse, and your officiant and discuss what kind of vow exchange you would like to do.  Do you want your vows to be written "together" or as a personal message to each other as a "surprise" at the altar?  Do you want your vows to be "similar" in pattern, or a free write of your commitment to each other?  Would you like to read your vows to each other at the altar, or repeat them as the officiant reads them?  Get an idea of what you are both comfortable with so the exchange of vows will be smooth, stress free, and a true profession of your lifelong promises to each other.

DON'T WAIT - Plan and write your vows well in advance.  As your wedding date approaches you will be pulled in several directions and will have to focus on many things.  Don't let your vows, the most important part of the day, fall by the wayside.  Think them through, be thoughtful and heartfelt.  Spend some quiet time putting your thoughts, ideas and feelings on paper ahead of time.

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE - Exchanging of the vows can be nerve wracking while standing in front of a crowd of people.  This is a lesson in public speaking, professing your love, and fighting off your nerves, so the more practice you have with the vows you have written, the more comfortable you will feel when you exchange them.  Read them, Speak them, Feel them!

BE LIGHTHEARTED - Remember that these are your words, your love, your lives, so don't feel the need to keep everything so serious.  Feel free to let who you are shine through - your partner is marrying you because of who you are, so make sure you stay true to yourself.  Vows don't have to be formal, and can be fun, witty and loving all at the same time.

Friday, August 15, 2014

LOVE IS SWEET!!!!



There are SO many options for wedding desserts.  It's not necessary to be "traditional" without losing that special touch. If you want to stick with Cake, try doing something a little "unconventional".  Cakes, Cupcakes, Pies, Cake Balls and even a Cupcake Truck!  You can do dessert stations in leui of a cake, or do BOTH!  It is always nice to add a special touch that is true to who you are as a couple.  Pick your favorite dessert, and make it your wedding cake!  If you love pie, have a "Pie Bar".  If you love gummy bears, have a "Gummy Station".  Guests will appreciate something different that is near and dear to the "Mr. and Mrs."



Wedding Cake Cost Savings Tips:
1.  Have a "display" cake for cutting, and pictures, but order a large sheet cake to be served to your guests.
2.  Don't serve a piece of cake to each guest, have the staff create a "cake buffet" for guests to help themselves to if they'd like.  This allows you to buy a cake that is smaller considering that many guests won't even have a piece of cake.
3.  Supplement your cake with a "ice cream station".  Guests can have a smaller piece of cake "a la mode"
4.  Shop Local.  Many local bakers will make a nicer quality cake, for less!

Friday, August 1, 2014



Save the Dates

Is it a necessity?  Or Optional?  I think it is a necessity in this day and age.  Destination weddings are becoming more popular, and if you plan to get married in any popular travel season (Summer, Holidays, etc.), it is really a courtesy for your guests so they can start making their own plans.  Save the dates are an announcement that you have set a date and started the wedding planning.  This will allow your guests an opportunity to plan their traveling or commitments and busy schedules around your wedding!  Guests can begin saving some money so they can afford the event, plan accordingly to take time off of work, and just start getting excited with you!  It is important that you send a save the date to everyone you plan to invite to the wedding.  You may find that some will respond early that they are unable to make the wedding after receiving their save the date, but keep in mind that you still need to send them an invitation to the wedding as a courtesy.  Sending the Save The Date announcements as soon as you have booked a date is best.  The more time people have to plan, the better!  Include the date, location and hotel booking information.

Friday, June 27, 2014

SIGNATURE COCKTAILS!

SIGNATURE COCKTAILS!

Featuring a "signature cocktail" at your wedding is a fantastic idea!  Perhaps a "His" and "Hers" drink, or just a special drink that you both agree on.  This is an excellent way to alleviate congestion at a wedding bar (especially during the initial bar rush), and is something that can allow you to add a special touch, and emphasize the theme of your wedding.  My recommendation is to choose a cocktail that really would appeal to the masses, that way everyone can endulge.  Passing a specialty cocktail works best when done during cocktail hour.  After the first hour, people have had the opportunity to try the drink, and after that, most guests will move onto their own specific drink that they prefer.  It is a nce idea to continue that specialty drink at the main wedding bar throughout the night.  Name the drink something special, and hang a sign at the bar to let people know about the drink.  There are so many excellent cocktail ideas, that you can find just about anything to fit your style, theme and season of the year!  ENJOY!

Saturday, June 14, 2014

How to plan the wedding of your "dreams"


It can be so overwhelming when thinking about how to make all of your wedding visions and dreams come to fruition.  How will you make it all happen and come together perfectly?  Follow my top three suggestions, and it will be smooth sailing!

1.  Find The Perfect Venue.  It is best to find the perfect spot to host your wedding day, something that you feel most comfortable with.  Try not to focus on the exact "date" you are looking for, and visit venues with an open mind, since once you choose the spot, all the other details will come together.  If you limit yourselves to a specific date, you may miss the opportunity to have the right place, and may have to "settle" on something that isn't right for you.

2.  Utilize Your Resources And Vendors.  Working with the right vendors (DJ, Band, Florist, Photographer, etc.) is a key to having a happy wedding day.  Keep in mind that weddings are the "lives" of these professionals and have so much valuable and helpful information to offer to you.  Choose vendors that understand who you are and what your visions are for your wedding day.  Your venue will often be able to make excellent recommendations of vendors who they work with often, and are sure to be reliable and experienced.  Once you choose your vendors, UTILIZE THEM!  Often times florists will go above and beyond their call of duty to help with decor, and details.  Many photographers offer photobooths, and videography services as well.  DJs and Bands are key in making the event happen smoothly and make the event memorable not only for you, but your guests!

3.  Keep Your Eye On The Prize.  Don't exhaust all of your energy with sweating the details and things that are out of your control.  Remember to relax, and enjoy every bit of the process.  All of your friends and family are gathering around you to celebrate your committment to love, so don't forget it!  This is the most important day of your lives, but always remember the love that has brought you to this moment!